Best-Selling Writers Who Overcame Rejection

“Gone With the Wind” was given the thumbs down 38 times before Margaret Mitchell finally found a publisher for it.

A Bucket of Pig’s Blood

Stephen King’s manuscript “Carrie”? 30 different publishers said, “no” to it. It was finally accepted, sold more than a million copies, got made into movies – you know the Carrie story. The bucket of pig’s blood, up in the rafters – yikes!

“M*A*S*H*” – it was a book, then a movie and then an iconic and long-running TV series. Twenty-one publishers turned down Richard Hooker‘s book. One finally saw it’s worth. All it takes is one.

Agatha Christie – her first novel never got a nod from a publisher. Never. She didn’t let that stop her. She wrote another novel. It finally found a publisher only because she agreed to change the ending. Sometimes ya gotta be flexible. Ms. Christie went on to publish 71 more novels.

A Time to Kill…Publishers

Dr. Seuss – turned down by 27 publishers. What? Now, you can read Theodor Seuss Geisel’s many published books in the air. You can read them anywhere.

John Grisham’s first novel, “A Time to Kill” – rejected many times. Finally picked up by a small publisher, who printed 5,000 copies. It didn’t sell well, until he wrote more novels and they became bestsellers, and then his fans went back and found “A Time to Kill.”

William Faulkner, James Patterson – I really shouldn’t mention those in the same breath, I know – but they do have something in common: their first novels collected MANY rejection slips from publishers. They persevered. If Louisa May Alcott took rejections to heart and stopped submitting to publishers, we wouldn’t have “Little Women.”

“The Diary of Anne Frank,” a book that has had an extraordinary impact on our public psyche, was turned down by 15 publishers before one that recognized how extraordinary it was. Through it, the memory of Anne Frank and all those who suffered during the Holocaust lives on.

The Takeaway

The lesson here is obvious. If you believe in your work, don’t let rejections get in your way. Badass writers reject rejection. Keep submitting. If you don’t believe in your work, no one else will.

The Creative Constipation Cure

Get Those Creative Juices Flowing Again

You are a writer because you have something to say. If you are not saying it, you have a problem. Badass writers don’t get creative constipation. We don’t get writer’s block. The only thing that gets in my way is time. Or lack thereof. I always have at least a half a dozen projects lined up, in various stages of ideation or completion. However, I wasn’t always a badass writer. It took me awhile to get here, and it may take you awhile, too. So until you reach that exalted status and join the club, here are ten ways to help you to unblock, and get those creative juices flowing again.

  1. Meditate. Let those troublesome thoughts drift away. Stop worrying and obsessing about whatever is diverting your mental powers and give yourself over to thinking about…nothing. I prefer guided mediation. You can find these all over YouTube. Some are as quick as ten minutes, others are longer. Some guides have especially relaxing voices, others take you through physical actions, such as stretching your limbs or taking deep breaths. Find one that works for you, and do it. Regularly.
  2. Work on several writing projects at once. What? How are you supposed to be able to finish anything if you jump from project to project? When you hit an impasse on one, jump to another. Let’s say you’ve come to a point in your novel where you just don’t know what’s going to – what should happen – next. Instead of trying to force the story to go in a particular direction, take a break from it, and write something else. Make notes for your next novel. Call Grampa and ask some questions that will help you with that memoir you’re writing. Changing things up can be very helpful.
  3. Engage in some sensory deprivation. Go into a dark, quiet room and sit, unmoving. Set a timer for ten minutes.
  4. Engage in some sensory stimulation. Light a scented candle or some incense, put on some mood music or sounds – again, Youtube is a great place to find this. You can set a timer for this, too, although I find that scents and sounds help me write.
  5. Change locations. Take your laptop to a coffee shop, a park, a library. If you need quiet while you write, obviously you should choose a quiet location. Some people, however, may find it beneficial to be surrounded by sound and activity. I take my laptop to my backyard, and sit under a maple tree, enjoying the greenery around me and the sunshine overhead.
  6. If you have access to a sauna (like, maybe, the one at your gym that you’ve never gotten around to using), use it. Get in there, lie down and close your eyes. Stay in there for awhile. This won’t just clear your pores; it’ll clear your head, too.
  7. Participate in my Instagram #badasswriterchallenges. (I’ll be starting them soon.) Look at the image that I provide and write a paragraph based on it – and the starter sentence that goes with. Don’t like my images? Find one of your own, and write a paragraph or short story inspired by it. Who knows? What you write may turn out to be the basis of something much longer. Even if it doesn’t, writing prompts can be very effective in helping you get out of your own way. Badass writers do not get in their own way.
  8. Here’s another image-based technique: find a picture of some stranger and use it to create a character. Come up with that person’s backstory, describe their personality, what they do for fun, what gets them into trouble, assemble details about where they live, how they live, who they live with. Like that. In many creative formats, you’re going to have to invent people. Characters. This exercise gets you in that groove.
  9. Do something else that’s creative, something that has nothing to do with writing. Step away from your computer and spend time on a creative activity that makes you happy. Play your guitar, knit a scarf, paint a picture, macrame a cool wall hanging, sew a quilt, make jewelry, build a birdhouse. All creative activities stimulate your brain and enhance connectivity, so that when writing happens to be the creative activity you are doing, you can more easily access ideas – ideas that may have been percolating in your brain when you were making papier mâché apples to put in a papier mâché bowl. But the papier mâché contributed to the writing.
  10. Stop writing. Put your project away and sleep on it. When I’m tired, I can find myself completely frustrated by something I’m trying to accomplish. When I approach the same problem the next morning, the solution comes to me, as if by magic. Yeah – the magic of a good night’s sleep! Scarlett O’Hara was right: Tomorrow is another day.

©2023 Kamatise Productions, LLC

Creating Characters the Badass Way: A Checklist

How to Use the Checklist

Instead of going down the checklist and deciding on details in an orderly fashion, DO IT THE BADASS WAY. Listen to your gut. Go with what you feel strongest about first. For instance, you may not arrive at a name for a character until you’ve figured out what he or she looks like, or eats for breakfast, or fears the most, or dreams about. And notice I used the phrase, “arrive at.” When you are really in tune with your badass writing self, you won’t have to fight to come up with words. They will come to you. They will recognize the badass creative door that you’ve opened for them and make themselves available to you, without any struggle on your part.

Sounds New Age-y, doesn’t it? It’s not. Being a badass means that you will have the confidence as a writer (and a person, generally) to access your imagination. To acknowledge your instincts and let them play out, on the page. To give yourself permission to BE a writer.

You don’t have to supply every detail on this list, either. Write as many descriptives as it takes for your character to emerge as a tangible being – one that you can set in motion, strutting through your story, wreaking chaos or healing heartbreak, suffering misfortune or inflicting harm on others. If age, appearance and a name are enough to fully flesh out your characters, you’re done with the list! Early on, though, it may be helpful to you to complete it, as an exercise. You don’t have to use all of the characteristics you jot down here in your work. They can simply function as subtext – something beneath the surface that informs the writing you do.

Remember that characters change throughout stories. They’re supposed to, in fact: that change is called an arc. For that reason, avoid falling too much in love with the fictional people you create. That could lead to you being rigid and resisting changes when your characters and storylines are telling you that they are needed.

About Stage Plays

It should go without saying (but I’m going to say it anyway): in stage plays, only use physical descriptions that are absolutely essential to the action of the play. (Don’t specify that a character should be tall if their height is irrelevant.) Keep in mind: the audience is not going to be reading the descriptions. Directors and actors are, for casting and character development purposes.

You may include:

  • Gender, age, race and regional background IF those things are important, such as if a character has a New England accent (that’s where the regional background comes in).
  • Personality traits and mannerisms, if they are essential to our understanding of the character. “He is an easy-going man who is uncomfortable with conflict.” “She appears eager to please, but there is a barely suppressed rage just beneath the surface.” “Her movements convey impatience.”

About Using Real People as Inspiration

Do it! There is absolutely nothing wrong with basing your characters on people you know – as long as they’re interesting. However, to prevent hurt feelings, make sure you change names and a few essential details, so Uncle Rufus does NOT realize that the foul-mouthed, abusive alcoholic in your story was inspired by him. No sense getting Uncle Rufus on your bad side, or stirring up family drama.

Use yourself, too. What you’ll find, as you progress as a BADASS WRITER, is that even characters that are drawn from your real life – acquaintances, relatives, loved ones – will evolve into composites. In one play I wrote, “The Bucket List of Booze Club,” several of the characters had experiences that mirrored mine, but were also distinctly different from me. Amy, had an emotional a monologue about giving her mother, who had Alzheimer’s, showers, and how her mother seemed so vulnerable at those times, so afraid of falling. My mother had Alzheimer’s. I gave her showers, and tried to allay her fears about falling. However, Amy was also a talented baker who was trapped in a lifeless marriage – neither of which applied to me. Another character, Jen, complained about bad first dates with men she met online. Jen’s hilarious stories were drawn from my bad first dates I had with men I met online! (At least I got something out of them.)

In a novel I wrote, “Palm Tree Pipe Dreams,” the protagonist is a wanna-be screenwriter from the Midwest who is living in L.A. and working as a low echelon, much-abused admin for a successful talent agent. I was a wanna-be screenwriter from the Midwest living in L.A. and working as a low echelon, much-abused admin for a successful talent agent…who also appears in the novel. I changed his name, but kept his self-centered, smug, patronizing personality.

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A Checklist for Creating Characters the Badass Way (downloadable version here)

  • What is the character’s name?
  • What is their age?
  • What is their race? I’d love to say that race doesn’t matter, but it does. Usually. It is one of the first things we notice about someone, along with gender and age. Don’t be afraid to assign a specific race to a character, and it doesn’t have to be your race. (See my blog post on the worst writing advice ever.)
  • What is their gender? Or are they gender fluid, or nonbinary, or transitioning from one to the other, or…?
  • Describe their physical appearance and the way they present themselves. I added that latter part to keep this as broad as possible. The things you note here can be permanent or temporary, such as short, thin, loves colorful clothes, fat, appears uncertain, balding, voluptuous, has a limp, smiles incessantly, tall, energetic, soft-spoken, confident, weary, etc. Don’t limit yourself to the obvious. (Read my blog post on Badass Character Descriptions That Will Inspire You.)
  • Family background: Did the character grow up with a single mom, or in a two-parent household, or with two same-sex parents, or with parents of different races/cultures/religions so there were clashes? Were they raised by a grandparent, an only child, a twin, one of many siblings, a middle child, the baby of the family, the oldest one? Did the family moved around a lot, stay in the same house for decades, have lots of stability, have no stability because of…? (Mental illness, substance abuse, etc.) Did they grow up working class, middle class, poor, wealthy? Our childhoods have a profound effect on how we are as adults. Give some thought to the familiar circumstances that shaped your character’s character.
  • What are some major events in their lives that have affected them? There will be some overlap here with the family background section, and that’s ok. Did a parent die young? Did they adopt a child? Get molested as a child? Win the lottery? Lose the big game? Witness a murder? Get featured on a sports arena jumbotron with a person who was not their spouse? Spend time in prison? Spend time as a caregiver for a loved one? Win a nationwide singing competition? Were they in a car accident that changed the trajectory of their life? Did they do something heroic? Something cowardly?
  • Where is the character from? What country, or state or region; a big city, a suburb, a small town, a rural area, a remote village. Did they start out in one place and move to another at an impressionable age?
  • What are they passionate about (if anything)? Hobbies? Interests? Are there activities they’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t yet? Are there things that broke them? Are they passionate about nothing? If so, why? Did an early disappointment in life teach them that embracing things enthusiastically is risky?
  • What do they love? Who do they love? Why do they love?
  • What do they fear? What do they dream of?
  • Who do they admire? Who do they despise? Who do they feel close to?
  • What are their political or religious beliefs? Do those differ from those of the people in their lives – people who are close to them or who they work with or deal with? Are they contrarians, or do they go along with the crowd?
  • What do they hope to achieve in life? (Or have they already achieved it?)
  • What do they regard as their biggest failure? Their biggest success?
  • How would you describe a character’s relationships with the other characters in your story? Yeah, this gets complicated. Relationships, though, are the beating heart of fiction and drama, so give them plenty of attention. They can be simple, tangled, tortured, dysfunctional, bitter, loving or fractious. They will also change, or be revealed, during the tale you’re telling. Think about the relationships in your own life. The closer you are to someone, the likelier that your relationship with them has many layers, some healthy and supportive, some negative and frustrating.

©2023 Kamatise Productions, LLC

YOU Write the Next Blog Post

  • Is there something about writing that you want to get off your chest?
  • Is there advice you wish you’d been given or a warning that would have prevented some frustration on your part? (Notice that I said some. If you’re a writer, or going to be a writer, you need to make friends with frustration, because it is going to be at your side and in your head a lot.)
  • Is there part of my Write Like a Badass approach that you want to call bullshit on? Or has something I’ve read or said helped you in your writing?
  • Do you get irritated when you read lousy writing that has been published by a major publisher, while your work of genius has gotten rejected again and again?
  • Want to boast about your success? Tell us how you did it? Rub our noses in it, even?
  • Do you want to share your knowledge about a particular writing genre? Tell us why you love writing antebellum vampire cozy mystery comedies or nonfiction books about bringing feng shui to closets?
  • Want to tell people how you successfully promoted your self-published book?
  • Do you feel like your work is being overlooked because it represents a viewpoint that is not mainstream (whatever that word means)?
  • Would you like to tell us why your membership in a writers’ group that meets and critiques has been worthwhile or a waste of time?
  • Do you just need to vent about the writing life?

Whatever writing topic is burrowing in your mind right now, squirming to get out and see daylight, might make a damn good post. By damn good, I mean something that would, in some way, be beneficial to the people who read this stuff. Both good and bad experiences offer useful lessons, so feel free to get ugly with it. Badass writers aren’t afraid of ugly.

Why bother? Putting your writing out there on a public forum is risky. That’s good for you. You will be engaging with your fellow writers, who will, in all probability, comment on your post. There’s a good chance that some commentors will be supportive. YOthers will not. Some will likely be negative, and that’s good. It will give you practice in dealing with criticism.

Write a blog post and send it to me. If it’s any good, I’ll post it and let you know that I’ve posted it.

-Give me 300 to 1,000 words.
-Use your real or name or a pseudonym.
-Link to you own website or social media if you want to. (NEVER miss an opportunity to promote yourself.)
-Include a photo of yourself if you want to.

Send your blog post to: howtowritelikeabadass@gmail.com. When you do that, you give me the right to post your piece on my blog, but you retain ownership of it.